You have grown more into the woman that you wanted to be. As you grow, some relationships no longer align with who you have become, and that’s okay. People grow apart, and that’s not your fault. One of the best things that you can do for yourself is to take the lessons you have learned after a breakup to heal.
As you heal, you will be able to transform your life and love again in a compatible, healthy relationship. You don’t have to be a celebrity like Megan and Devon to feel like everyone sees your breakup as a failure. Family members and friends saying things like “I thought you guys were going to last” or “I really like you too together” is enough to make you have doubts about your feelings towards the relationship.
Here are a few things that you should know about ending a relationship.
It’s alright to break up even if nothing bad happened.
Sometimes we think that something terrible has to happen to end a relationship. The truth is that as you grow, some relationships no longer align with who you have become, and that’s okay. You can still end a relationship cordially.
It’s so easy to stay in a relationship when we feel like nothing is wrong. The guilt of ending a nontraumatic relationship can make you delay a breakup. Sis, when you know, you know. Don’t make yourself feel bad for choosing you first. You deserve to feel like you are with the right person. Procrastinating a breakup will push you back in your healing process and prevent you from finding true love.
If you feel guilty about ending a relationship, write down what you felt was missing in your relationship. What are some of the things that you want in a relationship? These types of thoughts and questions will help you move forward knowing that you made the right decision.
It’s okay to feel different emotions.
As you go through the emotions of a breakup, some days you feel happy about your decisions, and there are days when you have doubts about ending your relationship. Go through each emotion. If your feelings change daily, weekly, or monthly, don’t be hard on yourself. It’s normal to go through different emotions.
Remember, you still have a future, so don’t let this break up define who you are or what you are feeling at this moment. One thing about feelings is that they change, and you don’t want to make quick decisions based on your emotions at the moment. Focus on the new future that you can create for yourself.
Grace allows you room to make mistakes.
Grace empowers you to live the life that you desire. Although you may have made some mistakes in your relationship or how you handle your breakup, you can still learn from those mishaps. Every experience you go through helps shape the woman you are becoming and prepare you to love again.
Next time you find yourself in a similar situation, you would have already evolved and can handle any further challenges gracefully. Don’t let mistakes stop you from moving forward. Once you push through, you can help someone else, and you will be proud to see much you have changed.
Don’t go through it alone.
If you realize that your feelings are severe and prolonged after a breakup, then it could be a sign that you need to seek a professional. Talking to someone can support you in the process of a painful breakup. Breakup depression happens, and a professional can help you develop healthy coping methods.
You need to know the difference between the typical emotions of a breakup and breakup depression so that you can reach out to someone. If you need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate.
Take time for yourself after a breakup. Time to reflect, understand your emotions. And, time to be excited about your future in this next chapter.
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